Ok, I have heard A LOT, A LOT, A LOT of comments with regards to my children. Most are very kind. Some are well, ignorant. And a few are downright rude.
While we were in my hometown for Thanksgiving, I went grocery shopping with Seth for the big dinner. While there I was shopping I was stopped by a couple in their 60's. She looked at Seth and said, "My niece got one of those!"
"Huh?" I thought, "Calm Suzie. Calm. You're in your hometown. Be nice. Be nice."
"You mean my son?" I asked.
"Yes." she said and went on to tell me her story.
Luckily she was distracted by a friend. I sorta just turned my cart away fuming.
It was as though she was admiring my purse of my new coat. My child. My child! That is all I could think. Yes, I know what she meant. But what if my big girls had been along?? They are 6 and understand comments well now.
May the understanding of love and family, real family permeate the mind of those who have not walked in our path.
5 comments:
That really stinks.
Who does that? Some people...I don't even know what to say to that!
I just was thinking about this as our pediatrician in front of Gio asked if we ever met his mom and dad. I replied, "No, I have never met his BIOLOGICAL parents!"
You would think a pediatrician would know better terminology especially in front of the kids! Hello, we are the ONLY parents he has ever known!!!
Inverse golden rule?
Golden Rule:
Do unto others as you would have done unto you.
Inverse Golden Rule:
Do unto others as they have done unto you.
If they are so completely socially obtuse as to be able to make comments on this scale of rudeness they forfeit their right to be treated humanely in the social contract. So I say be rude and condescending right back.
Lady in store:
You niece has a shirt like mine? How nice. I'm certain you couldn't be referring to my child, no one is as socially inept and rude as to refer to children as "one of those" like an object. Huh? You'd like to rephrase the comment? Okay, take you time wouldn't want you to strain yourself.
Doctor:
Of course I've met his mom and dad. You've met them. I'm his mom, my husband is his dad. Surely a smart doctor like you did better than a D- in the bedside manner class. Would you like to discuss his genetic history for inheritable illnesses? We know nothing of that. But we sure do know his mom and dad.
Hear ya, feel ya. Love ya! Been there too many times to count. Praying the same prayer as you. Let their eyes and hearts be opened. LOVE YOU!!!
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